It is an unfortunate fact of life that today, very few people have good manners. This is regardless of whether they were taught good manners growing up, or whether they were not. Many people that I know personally were taught good manners by their parents, but they have completely forgotten them. Things as simple as saying “Thank you” when someone gives you a gift or a compliment are completely gone from the vocabulary of modern people, it would seem.
However, it should be noted that any good therapist or psychologist will tell you that good manners are a strong key to healthy relationships. So how can you teach yourself good manners later in life, so that your relationships with your loved ones stay strong? A good place to start would be with an in home couples massage. Any set of therapists is going to be polite to one another, whether they are themselves in a relationship or not. It is simply good manners. You won’t hear the two therapists quarreling among themselves when you are getting dressed, or being rude if they happen to bump into one another during the course of the massage. Instead, you will be modeled politeness by your therapists, and you can take this knowledge back to your relationship with the loved one with whom you were getting the massage, and make your relationship that much better.
Another good way to teach yourselves good manners is to hire an etiquette consultant. Find one by searching on Google, simply by adding your area to the title of etiquette consultant. These people have great social graces and manners themselves, and they make it their career to teach others to behave appropriately in social situations, as well as other situations. You can find a consultant to teach you manners in dating and relationships, and these same people can also teach you etiquette in corporate and other social settings, such as at weddings and other social events. While not everyone was lucky enough to have been taught social graces when they are growing up, everyone can take advantage of this new modern concept of learning etiquette while you are older.
You can also learn etiquette by modeled example. If you have the funds for it, you can go to dinner at an expensive, fancy restaurant, and watch the people at the table next to you. You can watch the way that the wait staff interacts with both you and other guests at the restaurant. You can sometimes even become friendly with the wait staff, and explain your dilemma to them. Perhaps you grew up in a household where everyone treated each other poorly. Your parents may have even ended up getting a divorce after tiring of using one another for verbal target practice. In such cases, you do not want to repeat their mistakes. If you are reading this, and willing to take the next steps, though, you can be confident that you won’t repeat the mistakes of the past, and that your relationships will be those worth having and holding on to.